Two weeks ago my mom handed me two cardboard boxes with my name on them in her handwriting. She moves into her condo in November, and these were the last of my things in her house: report cards, a jean jacket covered in pins, a stack of birthday cards, my first pair of ballet shoes. I put them in our hall closet next to my own bin of keepsakes, and for a few days I just closed the closet door faster than usual.
I’ve written about the guilt side of this before. This post is the practical part: how to declutter sentimental items when every one of them feels important. It’s the order I used last weekend, the limit that made the decisions for me, and what I’d do differently.
Why sentimental items go last
Every decluttering method I trust puts keepsakes at the end, and I learned why the hard way. The first time I tried this, years ago, I started with a box of my grandmother’s letters on a Monday night. I read for two hours, cried a little, threw out nothing and went to bed with the whole box on the floor.
Deciding about a sweater takes a second. Deciding about a letter from someone who died takes a lot more, and you only have so many of those decisions in you per day. When we helped my mom pack, we did the easy categories first for the same reason. If you want a gentle warm-up, my gentle decluttering method is built around that idea.
That Saturday I did the bathroom cabinet and the coat closet in the morning. The keepsakes waited until after lunch.
Pick the container before you open a box
This is the rule that did most of the work. Before I opened anything, I decided how much space my sentimental things get: one 18-gallon bin with a lid, on the top shelf of the hall closet. Everyone else in the house gets the same. When the bin is full, something comes out before something new goes in.
I like this because I don’t have to decide whether a thing “matters.” Everything in those boxes mattered. The question becomes which things matter most, and you can only answer that by comparing them side by side.
Before last weekend I had my bin plus my mom’s two boxes. That’s about three bins of stuff for one bin of room.
How to declutter sentimental items, one category at a time
I emptied everything onto the bed in the guest room and sorted it by type, not by memory. The order went from easiest to hardest:
- Cards and paper. Birthday cards, report cards, certificates, programs from school plays. There were 61 cards. I kept the ones with something written beyond a signature, which was nine.
- Clothing and fabric. The jean jacket, two concert T-shirts, the ballet shoes, a baby blanket. I kept the blanket and the shoes. The jacket I wore around the house for an hour, which was fun, and then it went to donation.
- The kids’ artwork. I already had a bin of this from our own house. I kept one piece per kid per school year and took a photo of the rest.
- Inherited things. My grandmother’s letters, a brooch, a recipe card in her handwriting. All of it stayed. This category is small, and I didn’t make myself cut it.
- Photos. Last, because they take the longest. More on those below.
By the time I got to the letters I had already made about a hundred small decisions. They were easier than I expected because I had already seen what I was keeping and how much room was left.
Keep the best one, photograph the rest
For anything that comes in a pile, like cards, kids’ drawings and trophies, I keep the best one and take a picture of the others. I lay them out on the bed in a grid, take one photo of the whole group, and put the photos in a shared album named for the year.
I was skeptical about this. I thought I’d feel like I was throwing out my childhood. What happened is that I’ve opened that album more in one week than I opened the boxes in ten years, because it’s on my phone and the boxes were in a closet.
One thing I didn’t photograph: things I’d decided to keep. A picture doesn’t replace the brooch, and I’m not pretending it does.
How to declutter sentimental photos without losing them
There were about 400 loose prints between my bin and my mom’s boxes. I didn’t scan them all. I went through them once and pulled out the blurry ones, the duplicates and the photos of scenery from trips nobody remembers. That got rid of about half.
The rest went into photo boxes, by decade. While I was looking up how to store them, I found the Library of Congress’s guide to caring for photographs. It says to keep them somewhere cool and dry, around 70 degrees or below, and away from attics, basements and exterior walls. It also says to skip rubber bands, paper clips and the sticky “magnetic” albums. My mom’s prints had been in rubber bands for twenty years, and some of the stains won’t come out.
The National Archives has a page on storing family papers and photographs that says the same about damp basements, garages and hot attics. That’s why the bin lives on a closet shelf inside the house, not in the garage where I first put it.
What I kept and what I did with the rest
| Category | What I had | What I kept | What happened to the rest |
|---|---|---|---|
| Cards and letters | 61 cards, 14 letters | 9 cards, all 14 letters | Photographed the group, then recycled |
| Clothing and fabric | 8 pieces | Baby blanket, ballet shoes | Jacket and shirts to donation |
| Report cards and certificates | About 30 | High school diploma, one report card | Photographed, then shredded |
| Kids’ artwork | A full bin | One piece per kid per year | Photographed by school year |
| Inherited items | 6 things | All 6 | Nothing, by choice |
| Loose photos | About 400 | About 200, in boxes by decade | Blurry and duplicate prints out |
Three mistakes I made trying to declutter sentimental items
- Starting with the hardest box. The letters on a Monday night got me nowhere. Do the easy categories first, on a day when you have time.
- Keeping things in the garage. My first keepsake bin sat in the garage for two summers. The cards on the bottom were wavy from humidity when I opened it.
- Saving things for a project. I kept a pile of T-shirts for years to make a quilt. I don’t sew. I gave the quilt idea up last weekend and kept one shirt.
What didn’t work for me
Scanning everything. A few years ago I bought a flatbed scanner and decided to digitize every photo before getting rid of any. I scanned 140 prints in one long weekend and never touched the scanner again. If you’re going to scan, scan the ones you kept, not the ones you’re getting rid of.
The other thing was asking my family to “go through it with me.” My sister and I did one box together and it took three hours, because every item started a story. I loved hearing them, and we finished exactly one box. Now I sort alone, put aside anything that belongs to someone else, and hand it over afterward. If your family has strong feelings about this, the scripts in my decluttering guilt post help.
And if you’re doing this before a move, like my mom is, my decluttering before a move checklist has the timeline. Keepsakes go in the last two weeks.
Grab the free printable: my one-page Sentimental Items Sorting Sheet, with the five categories in order, the one-bin rule, a photo checklist, and a spot to note what goes to whom. Get the free sheet →
FAQ
How do you declutter sentimental items without regret?
Set a space limit before you start, like one bin, and sort by category from easiest to hardest. Keep the best of each group and take a photo of the rest. In my experience, regret comes from rushing the hard things, so leave inherited items and photos for last.
What should you not throw away when decluttering?
Anything irreplaceable that you still love, like handwritten letters from people who are gone, along with documents you may need, like diplomas. I kept every one of my grandmother’s letters and cut cards and school papers instead.
How do you store sentimental items you keep?
In a lidded bin or photo-safe boxes, inside the house on a shelf. The Library of Congress and the National Archives both say to avoid attics, basements and garages, and to skip rubber bands and paper clips on photos and papers.
If there’s a box like mine in your closet, here’s how to declutter sentimental items in one afternoon: start by choosing the bin. Decide where your keepsakes will live and how much room they get. Then do the cards first, on a Saturday afternoon, after you’ve done something easy.
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